19 Mar

No Plans, No Panties

So my hubs wants more Sex.

Turns out, he’s just like most married men in America.

Yep, the #1 complaint I get from husbands is they’re not getting enough nooky from their wife.

So I ask them, “When’s the last time you made plans to share special time with your wife?”

If they look at me confused, I manspeak: “No plans, no panties.”

When you make plans to make your partner feel special – just like you did before you ever had sex with them – you’re likely to get more sex.

For your convenience, I’ve broken down this complex formula into 3 easy steps:

  1. Spend a minimum of 5 minutes thinking about how to make your spouse feel special. If stuck after 5 minutes, call her best friend for ideas.
  2. Make plans accordingly.
  3. Implement plan.

Warning: This might involve calling a babysitter, making reservations, and texting your partner to be ready at 7 on Friday night wearing something sexy. Or simply pack a picnic, spread a blanket on the living room floor, and give a massage using SENSE Stimulating Body Oil to get those desire juices flowing.

Though these tasks may seem monumental, I KNOW most men can succeed in getting more sex if they make more plans to spend ‘adult’ time with their spouse.

I see it happen every month during Date Nite Special.

“We’ve been together 12 years and this is the most intimate we’ve ever been,” said a mom of two during last Date Nite Special.  And from the looks of them during dinner, I’m pretty sure their night had a happy ending.

Which brings me back to my hubs – that lucky guy married to the sexologist who takes him on a date night special every month.

Well, while I was writing this message, he texted me: ”Hey babe. Hired a sitter for Saturday. Hope you can make an 8 pm dinner reservation at Phuc Yea – that Asian spot you’ve been talking about.”

F$@k Yea I can make that!

Dr Sonjia

Dr. Sonjia (Sun-Ji-YA)


  1. Cory Wells
    May 6, 2018

    Dear Dr. Sonjia,

    Do you currently perform couples therapy? My wife and I are looking for a couples’ sexual therapist. Thank you.

    • Dr. Sonjia
      June 7, 2018

      I emailed you directly cory!


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