Confessions of a Porn Star

Is anything in porn real?

“The sex is real and you have to enjoy it, or at least pretend to. But it’s not as good when someone is pretending,” said my dear friend Dan, a registered nurse who was an adult film star in his earlier life.

Recently I’ve been talking to Dan about a sexual phenomenon plaguing people across the globe: Many compare their bedroom performance to porn stars, and feel as if they don’t measure up. Some adults have even revealed that they don’t enjoy sex because they’re worried about whether they’re doing things the right way.  How distracting! Dan is not one of these people.

When I asked Dan if sex on the set was enjoyable, he said, “There’s no such thing as bad sex. Sex is like pizza. But porn sex is not the same as sex with your partner. “

How is it different?

“Porn sex is amped up and it isn’t loving. You really have to ham it up and stay hard for a very, very long time with a bunch of people and cameras surrounding you. And most of the people aren’t hot so you really have to focus to stay hard.  Fortunately, there are always have one or two hot people on the set to take care of you, if you know what I mean.”

Dan, I don’t know what you mean. Please explain.

“Fluffers. They always on the set to get you ready.”

Are you saying that fluffers are hot people paid to get porn stars in the mood?  But they’re not in the film?

“Yeah, I guess you could describe it like that. But I don’t think you can call them fluffers anymore. I can’t remember the politically correct name for that job but I’m, pretty sure the fluffers union took out a petition against being called fluffers.”

You’re so knowledgeable Dan. Aside from being fluffed, how else did you prepare for a shoot?

“You’re not allowed to have sex or beat off for a few days before a shoot because your penis needs to be at its best, in terms of firmness and cum quality.  For optimal color and quality, I took zinc before the shoot because it makes cum extra white.  And I went to a tanning salon too. Guys that were really hairy (not me) had to get trimmed up too.”

Did the company pay for it?

“Oh yeah. They arranged it. They wanted us to look good.  They also did a lot of tricks with lighting to make sure we looked golden. They use a gold tint and misted us with water so it seemed like we were sweating in the sun with glistening skin. It was great when it was warm. But not so fun when you’re doing an outside scene in the cold.”

Poor thing.  What other hardships did you endure?

“Actually it wasn’t really a hard job and it was a lot of fun.  Definitely not slavery.  The hardest part was staying hard for so long.  After going for what seemed like forever, the directors would finally ask if you’re ready to cum. Then they would take twenty minutes setting up the ‘money shot’  before you’re allowed to cum.”

And the money shot is?

“The final scene. The directors will say something like, “We want someone to lay on floor and everyone will cum all over this person.  It takes awhile for them to set up the shot and you have to stay in the action until they give the word.”

What happens if you can’t hold back?

“Everyone gets very upset with you. It’s a real pain. They have to wait for you to get ready to go again. The fluffers get busy. If I ever got really close and needed to hold back, I would picture my mother’s face,  which was incredibly effective at preventing my orgasm.”

Any other challenges of the job?

“It can get tricky when you’re really getting into a scene and you look down and there’s a guy between your legs with a camera. And you’re never supposed to look at the camera. You can always tell a novice because they’re look at the camera”

Aside from, “Don’t look into the camera,” what other direction did filmmakers provide?

“They pretty much tell you to just have sex. They want to make it look as real as possible, but they’ll let you know when they need something from you.  They’ll say stuff like, “Move your arm to the right, turn towards the camera, lift your leg.  But after a few films, most don’t require that much direction.   But you definitely have to be more over the top than you would normally. Talk dirtier and louder. Moan more, be expressive, and really ham it up.”

Did you date your co-stars?

“You really not supposed to get together with the other actors outside of the film.  It’s really frowned upon. In fact, the rule of survival is never meet your partner beforehand and never, ever talk to them.”

Why?

“Because you probably won’t like your co-star and that makes having sex with them much more difficult. I broke the rule once and gave a co-star a ride to a shoot but that was big mistake. By the time we got there, there was absolutely no attraction, and it was really hard to have sex.”

Was that the only time you got to know a co-star?

“Well there was one time, but we never had a scene together. We had great sex after the shoot and the directors wouldn’t let us do a scene together, even after I asked for one.  They are really against co-stars having relationships. We ended up dating for awhile but we moved to different cities and the relationship faded.”

Did you have romantic relationships with people outside of the industry?

“I was in a relationship when I got into porn. At first my partner was pissed that I did a film. But the feedback from the movie was very good and I think my partner was kind of proud of me. We eventually broke up but it had nothing to do with porn.”

Why did you retire from adult films?

“It was fun and stuff.  Even though I can separate sex from love, sex with a partner is much better.  When you’re doing a film, you can’t always have sex with your partner because you’re waiting until your next shoot.”

Do you think having a job that requires you to have sex with other people might be problematic to long-term love?

“Not really, but it depends on the relationship. Some people don’t get that you can have sex and it doesn’t really mean anything. But not everybody’s like that.  And if your partner doesn’t get that, doing porn can get a little tricky.”

Would your current partner be okay if you decided to do a porn?

“I don’t think so. But the funny thing is, my partner has seen all of my movies and loves it when I do one of the over the top moves shown in my films. Every now and again, I get inspired to re-enact a scene and it makes my partner go wild!”

Sounds like your Sig O is a little star struck.

So there you have it. Adult films have very little to do with real sex in real life.

Porn performers get tanned and waxed before a fluffer gets them ready to have an unnaturally long sex session with strangers.  Adult actors ‘ham it up’ and hold back their orgasm while cameramen position themselves between their legs.  No doubt  about it – they work hard for their money!

Dan will soon earn money as an instructor at the Sex in South Beach School of Sensual Satisfaction, which opens May 1, 2012.  Combining his expertise as a registered nurse with his professional experience as a sex performer, Dan will be teaching two courses: 1) Bedroom Fantasies, and 2) Ready to go Raw?

Classes are limited to 20 students per session and registration opens up soon.  Go to www.sexinsouthbeach.com for more details.

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